Love Lessons: F*ck, I'm Gigi
I graduated from film school so I do feel a tiny bit of pressure to talk about heavy hitting films and dig deep into misè en scene or cinematography. But the truth is I wrote several papers on misè en scene and still don't really know what it actually is. It's something about everything you see in the frame, I don't know, google it. Anyways, this post is not about misè en scene.
This post is about He's Just Not That Into You. It's almost a decade old, doesn't have a great score on rotten tomatoes, didn't win any big awards but I think it's worth rewatching. Especially, if you're like me and judged the hell out of Gigi, the character played by Ginnifer Goodwin. In the movie, Gigi is this uber positive, young professional that is hell bent on dating guys, overanalyzing her date's every move and convincing herself that he's in love with her. Spoiler alert: they're not in love with her. But that doesn't stop her from staring at her phone, waiting for it to ring.
The first time I watched it, I thought, whoa, this Gigi is a loser. The guys she's dating are making up excuses to leave early and not call her back. She can't possibly be this naive, can she? I let it go, moved on with my life and never thought about this movie again.
Then I went to college. I liked a guy, thought he liked me back. Spoiler alert: he didn't. I was sure he did. I even had the conversations with friends that went like this: If a guy does x,y,z, that means he likes you, right? (questions Gigi asked in the movie) When I found out the guy didn't like me, I called my sister and I'll never forget what she said: "Imanni, remember that movie, He's Just Not That Into You, well...maybe, he's just-" Click. I hung up the phone. I didn't want to hear her brutal honesty, but I did watch the movie again and that's when it hit me: F*ck, I'm Gigi.
I became the girl that was overanalyzing and looking for things that weren't there. You ever heard of that Maya Angelou quote: When someone shows you who they are, believe them. I've heard it a billion times, but the things you know go out the window when you fall for someone. As a result, I became the one person I was sure I would never be: naive Gigi.
It's so easy to judge characters in films and shows because it's the only time it's okay to judge people and not feel guilty about it (And if you don't feel guilty about being judgmental, you should because it's an assholish behavior, said as a recovering judgemental person).
You can get away with judging movie/tv characters because they're fictional. They don't exist. But we forget that the personality traits in these characters are very real and chances are you might share some with the character you judged the most. Like me and Gigi.
Sometimes movies make you laugh, sometimes they make you cry, and sometimes they hold up a mirror and make you face yourself. That's why I love them.
Takeaways from He's Just Not That Into You:
Don't be so naive.
Don't be so judgmental.
P.S. It's scientifically proven that peanut butter heals wounded hearts. So stock up on Jiffy.